Learning To Let Go Of That Person You Never Dated

There have been countless times during my conversations with clients where they've opened up about deep rooted feelings for another person, but these feelings either seemed to be one-sided or unspoken. In these situations, my role as a coach is to support them in taking actionable steps to either:

1. Move the relationship forward in a real way- by expressing their feelings through their actions and words, so that these feelings no longer just exist within themselves, but can potentially become shared feelings.

2. Understand that these feelings have been expressed, and are not reciprocated in the ways they would like them to be, and they are now better off redirecting these feelings and exploring the potential with other people.

Often I've seen that it can be hard when you are in your own feelings to discern between these two choices. However, it's essential to your happiness to learn to do so.

I remember a session where my client told me he had deep feelings for the last year for a coworker and didn't know how to approach the situation. This can be a particularly tricky one as companies have differing rules and you want to be cautious about mixing relationships and work. However, he was particularly determined that she was meant for him so we discussed how he could slowly and carefully broach the subject of dating.

Understanding which path is right for you.

Have you ever been in a situation where you had feelings for someone, but it never moved past simply admiring them from afar? Or you found yourself in a situationship that never quite made it to the dating phase? You may have even taken the leap to tell the person how you feel about them, but despite your best efforts, they never reciprocated or acknowledged your feelings. This can be frustrating and hurtful, leaving you feeling stuck and unable to move on. If this applies to you, there are steps you can take to help release those pent-up feelings and start the journey toward healing.

1. Acknowledge Your Feelings

The first step is acknowledging your pain and accepting that these feelings exist within yourself. It’s important to remember that it’s okay to feel whatever emotions come up—anger, sadness, confusion—and allowing yourself time to process those emotions is an important part of healthy healing. Writing down your thoughts or talking with a friend can also be helpful in identifying and expressing these feelings.

2. Set Boundaries & Take Space

Sometimes physical distance is necessary in order for us to heal emotionally. Being around the person who has rejected us can make the healing process more difficult, so try setting boundaries if possible. These boundaries could include no longer engaging with them through social media or any other medium such as text messages or emails. Taking space from them will give you some much needed time alone to process what happened and focus on taking care of yourself.

3. Focus On Self-Care & Gratitude

Self-care activities such as going on walks or reading a book are essential during this time of healing; they allow us an opportunity to relax our minds and refocus our attention towards something else that makes us happy. It is also important to practice gratitude by recognizing all the good things in our lives that we can be thankful for; reflecting on how far we have come since then helps us let go of what we cannot control and appreciate what we do have in our lives instead.

Letting go of someone who has not reciprocated your feelings can be hard at first, but it gets easier with time when you focus on self-care activities like journaling, exercising, or practicing gratitude for all the wonderful things in life that make it worth living! The most important thing is understanding that although it may feel overwhelming right now, letting go opens up space for something new and better into your life - so take a deep breath and keep moving forward!